Show Notes.

What We Talk About:

• Listening as an active skill, not a passive act.

• How empathy deepens understanding and trust.

• Recognizing bias and its impact on communication.

• The importance of creating space for untold stories.

• Asking better questions to build stronger connections.

• The difference between listening to respond and listening to understand.

Quote of the Episode:

“Listening to understand is critical.”

Conversation Starters:

• When was the last time you felt truly heard?

• What helps you stay present instead of thinking about what to say next?

• How can you show empathy through listening this week?

Resources & Mentions:

• Harriet Lerner — The Dance of Connection
  A classic on how to speak and listen with courage and clarity. Lerner explores how empathy, honesty, and curiosity strengthen relationships—reminding us that listening is the foundation of real connection.

• “Listening as the Ultimate Spiritual Act” by Harriet Lerner (Psychotherapy Networker)
  A short, powerful essay on what it means to quiet your mind, open your heart, and truly hear another person. Lerner reframes listening as a practice of presence rather than performance.

• The Gottman Institute — Communication & Conflict Resources
  Evidence-based guides on active listening, empathy, and emotional attunement—offering practical tools for building stronger, more connected conversations.

Connect & Reflect:

Think about a conversation where listening changed the outcome. What made the difference? Tag us @theroughdraft and share your reflection or insight.

Mini Moment:

Tim recalls a conversation that didn’t go as planned—and how choosing to really listen changed the tone, the trust, and the takeaway.

Try This:

In your next conversation, focus on listening to understand. Ask one follow-up question that shows curiosity instead of judgment—and see how it shifts the connection.