When You Forget Yourself
About This Conversation
What if the way you naturally reconnect isn't the same as your partner's?
In this episode, we take Denise's new Connection Quiz for the very first time and discover that the results aren't nearly as important as the conversations they begin.
From a spontaneous river crossing in Leavenworth to the loss of a lifelong friend, we explore how relationships grow when we learn to recognize what the people we love need—not what we would need ourselves.
Along the way we talk about:
Why connection looks different for different people
How a simple quiz can open meaningful conversations
What the Gottmans call "bids for connection"
Why understanding someone's starting place matters more than getting their personality "right"
Supporting each other through grief, stress, and life's overwhelming seasons
How our kids—and all of us—benefit when we learn to ask for connection directly
Whether you've been together for two years or twenty-five, this conversation is an invitation to become a little more curious about the people you love.
Listen to this conversation
Big Idea
Connection isn't one-size-fits-all. We each have a different instinct for how we reconnect—with ourselves and with the people we love. The goal isn't to figure out your "type." It's to become curious enough to ask someone else about theirs.
Around Your Table
Carry the conversation into your own life.
When you're overwhelmed, what do you naturally reach for first?
How do you usually invite someone to spend time with you?
What helps you feel connected again after a hard season?
Has someone ever helped you become more like yourself when you had lost your way?
Keepsake
“The point isn’t to get your type right. The point is to become curious about each other.”
